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Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned
out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career
where she could help others but have time for her family. 
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church
shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting
with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was
determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered
often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the
homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped
do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have
changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there
was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died. 
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting
scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's
charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom,
Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to
foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss
of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter".
Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written
in a close time frame to the actual murder. 
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband
and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would
do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who
he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took
advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If
he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today.
We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished,
but we know he was a "Friend" till the end. 
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He
was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends
and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table
and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of
his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his
Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate
in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends. 
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom.
Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life.
Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug
rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at
the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part
of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish
reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams
that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE.......... 
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling,
and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a
room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life
and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very
special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom
also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he
showed his affection to his family and friends 
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader
for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the
dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities
stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once
they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents
are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high
school, maybe this wouldn't have happened. 
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her
family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful
young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many
to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart
was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was
not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at
such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can
be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world
we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her
touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something
that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was
very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his
voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do
nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through
and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until
the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on. 
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever.
Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael,
you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your
place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished
you the most. 
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell
me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History
Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned
a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a
little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans
to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together
and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first
time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless
over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands.
She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped
to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's
other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never
see their faces on these pages. 
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived.
She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was
in awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away,
and as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty
from the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend
she had she made her relationship with them special and unique. 
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend..
Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for.. Even though
he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he
did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter that he had
asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take
his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it.. Jamie died on April
23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other
people at the home called 911 instead of waiting 3 hours, he would still be
here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time
dealing with loosing his father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now
Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of you my son..Love
you always and forever, Mommy 
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest
child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and
loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and loved
to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and was
very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother and
one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could draw.
There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin was left
to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008. Her date
of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I miss her
every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an amazing young
woman. I lost a part of my heart. 
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents
only dream of having. He always respected and obeyed his parents and never got
in trouble. RJ was never in trouble in his life RJ always called home to let
us know where he was and when he would be home. When he was missing and we couldn't
reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong.
This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living
it. Our concern is not what we are going through, but what our son had to go
through in his final moments of life. 
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was
a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his
MOM was his best friend. Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and
sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing,
car, and home. Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children.
He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have
a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had
a gift with children. Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was
with their children and how their children loved him. Billy was loved by so
many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will
be greatly missed by all his family and friends. 
Chase lived life spontaneously with the freedom of a butterfly – a free spirit
& soul – no one could hold him down, except his baby girl. She was his LIFE.
There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do for her, including getting clean. Chase
was clean 1.5 yrs, after 6 months in residential rehab in New Orleans, continued
with NA meetings, substance abuse group counseling, and sought out a Navy recruiter
who told him all he would have to do to be eligible. He seemed to be on his
way, until he fell off the wagon 12 days out of jail. Turning to heroin again
to deal with stress was the mistake of his life. “Chase’s Story” is shared with
you on his main page. Thanks for taking time to read it. Sincere and heartfelt
thanks to the FDLFD Family for taking us under their wings. “They will sing
me to them, and I will hear.” ~RIP Chase~4evrYng~1985-2009 
Katelynn Lillian Porter, 16, of West Elgin, was killed in a car crash on Dunborough
Rd. in Elgin County. “In loving memory of Katelynn Porter. 12/12/09. 9:40 p.m.”
is written between two hearts on the roadside memorial, a makeshift cross. Porter
was a student at West Elgin secondary school, where officials are trying to
come to grips with the news of her death, especially so close to Christmas.
Tony passed away 10 days after his 16th birthday. He asked permission to spend the night at his friends and I told him yes. I told him" I love you" and he replied "I love you too Mom. Tony was the kid who wanted to make everyone laugh. He had such a wonderful sense of humor and a big heart. He would talk to his friends for hours trying to help them solve their problems. He was a loving big brother, and a wonderful son. He would help you with anything without even being asked. Tony was an extremely intelligent child. He was always placed in advanced classes. A week before he passed we received a letter from Columbine informing us that Tony was nominated to participate in their advanced English Program. He had a gift for writing stories.
She loved all things technical and mechanical with her older brother Ian and fashion and decorating days with her older sister Genevieve. She loved Gothic country art, the workings of the human body, video games, driving and her new tattoo machine. She loved swimming and surfing. She loved all things living and loved her dog Timpleton and her parrot Thermopolis. She had a strong heart and soul, was an independent and progressive thinker, open minded and a will power like no one else. Her favorite place to go was Barnes and Noble.
Vivianna Satterfield was 15 years old! Vivi was the type of young lady that put other people in front of herself. She would always say "Peace and Love".
Kelli Laine Lewis is my only daughter. Kelli died when she was 18 after attending a party hosted by 3 adults who offered a $5.00 entry fee to come and drink all you wanted. A pretty tempting offer for teens not old enough to buy alcohol.
Growing up – she had it all. She was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She wShe was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She was always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing. Taylor was a huge fan of Tyler Perry’s Madea. She owned every play and knew every word to every gospel song in the plays. She would sing them at the top of her lungs to anyone that would listen. as always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing.
He went out THE FIRST TIME to celebrate being "LEGAL" with a creep he considered a friend (even though we warned him this guy was not a true friend). My son did not drive so he was picked up about ten thirty. Even when it was obvious my son was having difficulties this creep brought him to his own house , which is 4 houses away for a few hours, and dropped him off here at home in the middle of the night WITHOUT KNOCKING OR CALLING OR WAKING US UP. We found Ben in his bed the next morning when we tried to wake him.
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Heroin Dealer Sentenced To 25 Years In Overdose DeathDealer Was Friend Of Victim, Her Family
POSTED: 7:54 p.m. EST November 17, 2003
BURLINGTON, Vt.
-- An admitted heroin addict and dealer was
sentenced to 25 years in prison Monday for his role
in the death of Jill McCarthy (pictured, below).
The judge in the case said he wanted to send a
message in his sentencing of Shawn Gibson: that the
drug problem is rampant, more treatment programs are
needed and drug dealers must be severely punished.
Two years ago, McCarthy, a friend of Gibson, went to
visit him at his South Burlington home. She died in
an upstairs bedroom of a heroin overdose. Gibson
admitted he gave McCarthy the drug.
"You always think these things happen because of a
stranger," said McCarthy's mother, Marykay McCarthy.
"This was not a stranger. This is a person who sat
at my table and ate meals at my house and stopped
into visit."
"When I knew him as a friend, he was a caring,
loving person. And I didn't see any of that in him
today," said McCarthy's sister, Mercedes Hickey.
In court Monday, Gibson, 28, did apologize for the
pain McCarthy's family is going through. He had
already admitted to selling heroin in Vermont for
years.
"Anybody who deals with this kind of poison in the
community, you're going to be held accountable,"
said McCarthy's brother, Kevin McCarthy.
Judge William Sessions agreed and in addition to
Gibson's 25-year prison sentence, his parents could
lose their home. The government wants to seize it
because drug deals were made there. The Gibson
family had not comment as they left the courthouse.
The judge also had some tough words for the
community. Sessions said not enough is being done to
help drug users who want to get clean. He warned
that until more treatment programs are available,
tragedies like Jill McCarthy's will continue to
happen.
Vermont finally got its first methadone clinic in
Burlington about 18 months after McCarthy's death.
The state said it wants to open a second clinic and
the money is available, but proposed clinics have
been rejected in Rutland and St. Johnsbury.
Before her death, McCarthy had been driving Gibson
to Massachusetts, where he was getting methadone
treatments for his heroin addiction. Gibson's lawyer
argued during his trial that if there had been a
treatment clinic closer to home, things might have
turned out differently.
But McCarthy's sister placed the blame for
McCarthy's death squarely on Gibson.
"We can never get her back. It's a complete
lose-lose situation. And basically the bastard got
what he deserves," said Hickey.
"Be careful. Watch your kids a lot, even if you
think they're grown up. Jill was 22," said Marykay
McCarthy.
Dealer Admits Supplying Heroin To Overdose VictimShawn Gibson, 28, Also Faces Federal Drug Charges
POSTED: 9:11 p.m. EDT July 31, 2003
BURLINGTON, Vt. -- A heroin overdose
killed 22-year-old Jill McCarthy two years
ago. The drugs -- her family insisted --
came from one of her longtime friends:
convicted drug dealer Shawn Gibson.
Thursday, Gibson, 28, pleaded guilty to a
charge that he supplied the heroin, dropping
his insistence that he had nothing to do
with his friend's death.
"He's on the road to forgiveness, we hope,"
said the victim's mother, Marykay McCarthy.
Court papers show Gibson operated a heroin
operation out of his parents' South
Burlington home.
The night McCarthy died, witnesses said
Gibson admitted to having a very strong
batch of the drug.
McCarthy was found in Gibson's bedroom the
next day, dead from a heroin overdose.
The Gibson family -- speaking only through
their attorney -- said Thursday the
government is at fault for not
rehabilitating their son.
"His life has been destroyed," said family
attorney Tom Sherrer. "Like the McCarthy
family, the Gibson family won't be able to
hold or touch Shawn again for the rest of
their lives. It's a sad case."
The McCartthys are also filing a civil suit
against the Gibsons, who also face getting
their home taken away from them for
harboring their son's drug business.
Earlier this week, Gibson pleaded guilty to
seven other federal drug charges. Sentencing
is set for November. Gibson could receive up
to life in prison.
Man To Take Plea Deal In Heroin Overdose
POSTED: 7:27 p.m. EDT July 29, 2003
BURLINGTON, Vt. -- A South Burlington
man is expected to plead guilty Thursday and
could be sentenced to life in prison for
allegedly giving a friend the heroin that
caused her to die of an overdose.
Shawn Gibson, 28, agreed Monday to the
federal plea deal on the charge he gave Jill
McCarthy the heroin that killed her two
years ago. Sentencing will be at a later
date.
The charge carries a mandatory minimum
sentence of 20 years.
Last month, Gibson pleaded guilty to seven
related charges of heroin distribution. He
has been held in jail without bail since his
arrest.
Man Pleads To Dealing, Denies Causing DeathSuspect Faces 160 Years In Prison For Heroin Distribution
POSTED: 9:40 a.m. EDT June 28, 2003
BURLINGTON, Vt. -- A South Burlington
man has admitted selling heroin out of his
parents' home.
But Shawn Gibson, 28, continues to deny he
sold the drug that caused the overdose death
of Jill McCarthy, 22.
Gibson pleaded guilty in federal court
Friday to seven counts of heroin
distribution. He could get prison sentences
totaling 160 years.
Gibson will go on trial at the end of July
on the one remaining count. That count
alleges that Gibson gave heroin to McCarthy,
which caused her to die of an overdose in
July 2001.
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We Are the Broken
Our lives have changed Our children taken, We're filled with pain.
To show you care. At first you support us Then you're not there. We see you out You see us too You avoid us That hurts too. What did we do For you to leave? Our children died Now we grieve. We put on masks When you are near We scream inside But you don't hear. You tell us, "Move on. Get on with your life." We simply nod Your words piercing like a knife. We long to say our child's name The one you want unspoken So you don't call because you're
afraid Of we, who are the broken. By: Kim Lasater
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