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Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career where she could help others but have time for her family.
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died.
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom, Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter". Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written in a close time frame to the actual murder.
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today. We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished, but we know he was a "Friend" till the end.
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends.
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom. Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life. Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE..........
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling, and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he showed his affection to his family and friends
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high school, maybe this wouldn't have happened.
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on.
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever. Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael, you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished you the most.
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands. She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never see their faces on these pages.
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived. She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was in awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away, and as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty from the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend she had she made her relationship with them special and unique.
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend.. Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for.. Even though he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter  that he had asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it..  Jamie died on April 23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other people at the home called 911 instead of waiting 3 hours, he would still be here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time dealing with loosing his father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of you my son..Love you always and forever, Mommy
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and loved to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and was very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother and one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could draw. There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin was left to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008. Her date of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I miss her every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an amazing young woman. I lost a part of my heart.
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents only dream of having. He always respected and obeyed his parents and never got in trouble. RJ was never in trouble in his life RJ always called home to let us know where he was and when he would be home. When he was missing and we couldn't reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong. This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living it. Our concern is not what we are going through, but what our son had to go through in his final moments of life.
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his MOM was his best friend. Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing, car, and home. Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children. He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had a gift with children. Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was with their children and how their children loved him. Billy was loved by so many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will be greatly missed by all his family and friends.
Chase lived life spontaneously with the freedom of a butterfly – a free spirit & soul – no one could hold him down, except his baby girl. She was his LIFE. There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do for her, including getting clean. Chase was clean 1.5 yrs, after 6 months in residential rehab in New Orleans, continued with NA meetings, substance abuse group counseling, and sought out a Navy recruiter who told him all he would have to do to be eligible. He seemed to be on his way, until he fell off the wagon 12 days out of jail. Turning to heroin again to deal with stress was the mistake of his life. “Chase’s Story” is shared with you on his main page. Thanks for taking time to read it. Sincere and heartfelt thanks to the FDLFD Family for taking us under their wings. “They will sing me to them, and I will hear.” ~RIP Chase~4evrYng~1985-2009
Katelynn Lillian Porter, 16, of West Elgin, was killed in a car crash on Dunborough Rd. in Elgin County. “In loving memory of Katelynn Porter. 12/12/09. 9:40 p.m.” is written between two hearts on the roadside memorial, a makeshift cross. Porter was a student at West Elgin secondary school, where officials are trying to come to grips with the news of her death, especially so close to Christmas.
Tony passed away 10 days after his 16th birthday. He asked permission to spend the night at his friends and I told him yes. I told him" I love you" and he replied "I love you too Mom. Tony was the kid who wanted to make everyone laugh. He had such a wonderful sense of humor and a big heart. He would talk to his friends for hours trying to help them solve their problems. He was a loving big brother, and a wonderful son. He would help you with anything without even being asked. Tony was an extremely intelligent child. He was always placed in advanced classes. A week before he passed we received a letter from Columbine informing us that Tony was nominated to participate in their advanced English Program. He had a gift for writing stories.
She loved all things technical and mechanical with her older brother Ian and fashion and decorating days with her older sister Genevieve. She loved Gothic country art, the workings of the human body, video games, driving and her new tattoo machine. She loved swimming and surfing. She loved all things living and loved her dog Timpleton and her parrot Thermopolis. She had a strong heart and soul, was an independent and progressive thinker, open minded and a will power like no one else. Her favorite place to go was Barnes and Noble.
Vivianna Satterfield was 15 years old! Vivi was the type of young lady that put other people in front of herself. She would always say "Peace and Love".
Kelli Laine Lewis is my only daughter. Kelli died when she was 18 after attending a party hosted by 3 adults who offered a $5.00 entry fee to come and drink all you wanted. A pretty tempting offer for teens not old enough to buy alcohol.
Growing up – she had it all. She was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She wShe was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She was always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing. Taylor was a huge fan of Tyler Perry’s Madea. She owned every play and knew every word to every gospel song in the plays. She would sing them at the top of her lungs to anyone that would listen. as always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing.
He went out THE FIRST TIME to celebrate being "LEGAL" with a creep he considered a friend (even though we warned him this guy was not a true friend). My son did not drive so he was picked up about ten thirty. Even when it was obvious my son was having difficulties this creep brought him to his own house , which is 4 houses away for a few hours, and dropped him off here at home in the middle of the night WITHOUT KNOCKING OR CALLING OR WAKING US UP. We found Ben in his bed the next morning when we tried to wake him.

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Woman Gets Maximum Sentence for Overdose Death
May 30, 2006

Richard Piatt Reporting

MaCall Aubrey Peterson pleaded guilty to negligent homicide and desecration of a body. The body was that of her friend, 18-year old Amelia Sorich, who overdosed on a speedball. Peterson's sentencing came late this afternoon.

Peterson learned today that she will serve the maximum sentence of zero to six years in prison. It's a Class three felony and a class B misdemeanor. The law allows up to five years for the Class three felony and one year for the class B misdemeanor.

The judge called the crime calculated, not accidental, saying it showed a callous disregard for human beings.

Judge Royal Hansen: "Your actions show that you are a danger to the community."

Last summer the two teens were partying with friends in Draper when 18-year-old Amelia Sorich overdosed on a mix of cocaine and heroin, that Peterson made.

Instead of calling 911 however, Peterson and 19-year-old Jason Calacino waited. Sorich died and the two hid her body.

A hiker found Sorich's body in the hills above Bountiful. At that time authorities said Sorich's collapse frightened the two teens and that's why they dumped her body.

Sgt. Dan Starks, South Jordan Police Dept., June 2005: "I believe an effort to resuscitate her through CPR was unsuccessful. One or more of the friends that were there with her apparently became panicked and decided to drive her to the Bountiful location, where they left her behind."

Peterson pleaded guilty to desecration of a dead body and negligent homicide in April. And has remained in prison since her plea, because she had missed several court appearances in the case.

The judge acknowledged Peterson's drug problem and invited her to get treatment.




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Overdose: No family is immune from drug plague


Cause of death of Joshua Ruzicka, son of Utah Eagle Forum President Gayle Ruzicka, is confirmed
Article Last Updated: 01/06/2008 12:38:43 AM MST

When the son of Utah Eagle Forum President Gayle Ruzicka was found dead of a drug overdose in the morals activist's home, it brought into sharp focus the breadth and depth of Utah's drug problem.

    Joshua Ruzicka was in a coma and not breathing after injecting a drug cocktail of heroin, cocaine and morphine when police and medical technicians arrived March 8 at his mother's Utah County home.

    "He was a dear boy. He wasn't this hard core, mean, awful thing that you think about when you hear about someone who took drugs," said Gayle Ruzicka. "He was a kind, sweet boy and the family dearly loved him."

    Joshua, 27, had been clean for a couple of years, but had resumed using drugs shortly before his overdose, she said.

    Until recently, police refused to confirm the cause or circumstances of his death, saying the information was part of an investigation. Ruzicka and her family had declined to discuss it with reporters; the words drugs, overdose or addiction never were uttered at Joshua Ruzicka's funeral at the family's Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints ward house. His obituary said only that he had "returned to the arms of his Heavenly Father."

    "It's not something we hide, but it's not something we flaunt out there because it causes pain," said Gayle Ruzicka. She asked that her son's overdose not be reported.

    Most people in her community of Alpine-Highland know about Joshua's overdose. Many who are having addiction problems call her, she said.

    "I tell them, 'Love them where they are. Don't abandon them - too many people abandon their children when they are going through this. If ever there's a time when they need to feel your love, it's now.' "

    Highland-Alpine Police Chief Kip Botkin confirmed this week that a medical examiner's report found that Joshua Ruzicka died of an overdose. Gayle Ruzicka and her husband were out of state at the time of the incident.

    Gareth Bozung, 27, who was with Joshua Ruzicka that night, has been charged with possession and distribution of illegal drugs and obstruction of justice in connection with the death. He is in the Utah County jail on unrelated charges of drug possession and possession of a concealed weapon, according to court records.

    Bozung told police that he sold Joshua Ruzicka a bag of heroin for $5 and was shooting "speed balls" with him until 4 a.m. Bozung called from Ruzicka's house for medical help and police arrived with the ambulance, Botkin said.

    Joshua Ruzicka, one of 12 Ruzicka children, grew up in Utah County's Mormon-dominated culture, but entered the world of drugs in his 20s. A talented musician, he had struggled with drug addiction for years, friends say.

    In 2005, he pleaded guilty to charges of attempted possession of drugs. According to court documents, a Sandy police officer discovered eight balloons of heroin and dozens of syringes, many bloodied, in a car driven by Joshua Ruzicka and a friend.

    His friends say he was popular and respected in the Salt Lake City area's music community, but his addiction undermined his ability to stay with a band.

    "He started using when he was 21," Ruzicka said. "He came and told me about it. We were his rehab house. Joshua was not the first of his friends to die. He knew he had to quit or he would die. We did everything to help him."

    Mike Forshee, a commander in the Utah County Major Crimes Task Force, said drug addiction, including heroin, is rampant in the county - along with overdose deaths.
    "We have about one [fatal overdose] a week," Forshee said. "The majority are heroin-related. It's hitting the county hard."

    But Lance Merrill, who lost his 19-year-old daughter, Jani, to an overdose in 2006 and now leads Dads Against Drug Dealers, said Forshee's numbers are dated.

    "It's more like twice that now," said Merrill, of Provo. "Almost every day there's an obituary in the paper that said someone was 'a wonderful person, loved by children and animals and they were taken before their time.' But no cause of death is listed."

    "People will not talk about it," he said. "Society has a shame about it."

    Forshee said the innocence of the culture in what is known as "Happy Valley" hampers fighting drug addiction. "There's something unique about the demographics of the area. Maybe it's the religion. We have adults who have not seen drugs - ever - raising children," he said. "The kids are doing it, but the parents don't know what to look for."

    Merrill, who is Mormon, says this willful ignorance extends to public officials and even doctors. "It's so in-the-closet and hush-hush and it's-their-own-damn-fault."

    Acquaintances of Joshua Ruzicka said he took "a lot of flak" over his mother's high-profile conservative stands against homosexuality, pornography, video-game violence, profane rock music and abortion. "People made a lot of snide remarks about his mom. She was an easy target," said one friend. "But he never joined in."

    It was obvious at Joshua Ruzicka's funeral that he was adored for his humor and creativity. Besides music, he was an audacious skateboarder and an adventurous chef, family members said.

    Still, Ruzicka said reporting the circumstances of Joshua's death would be "like breaking healing bones."

    "I have children who get deeply, deeply hurt," she said. "Family comes first."

    Merrill says drug addiction must be dragged out of the shadows to help families and society come to grips with the tragedy it causes. His daughter's obituary said, simply, "Our daughter lost her battle with addiction."

    "At my daughter's funeral we talked about her overdose," Merrill said. "Now, even my bishop talks about addiction and what it's doing to the community. My daughter's death became a rallying cry, 'We've got to fight this.' "

    gwarchol@stlrib.com

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    * NATE CARLISLE contributed to this article.









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We Are the Broken

 We are the broken

Our lives have changed

Our children taken,

We're filled with pain.

 

We look to you

To show you care.

At first you support us

Then you're not there.

 

We see you out

You see us too

You avoid us

That hurts too.

 

What did we do

For you to leave?

Our children died

Now we grieve.

 

We put on masks

When you are near

We scream inside

But you don't hear.

 

You tell us, "Move on.

Get on with your life."

We simply nod

Your words piercing like a knife.

 

We long to say our child's name

The one you want unspoken

So you don't call because you're afraid

Of we, who are the broken.

 

By: Kim Lasater

Mother of Kaylin Mathews

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