Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned
out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career
where she could help others but have time for her family.
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church
shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting
with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was
determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered
often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the
homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped
do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have
changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there
was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died.
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting
scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's
charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom,
Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to
foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss
of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter".
Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written
in a close time frame to the actual murder.
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband
and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would
do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who
he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took
advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If
he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today.
We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished,
but we know he was a "Friend" till the end.
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He
was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends
and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table
and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of
his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his
Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate
in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends.
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom.
Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life.
Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug
rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at
the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part
of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish
reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams
that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE..........
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling,
and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a
room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life
and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very
special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom
also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he
showed his affection to his family and friends
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader
for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the
dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities
stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once
they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents
are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high
school, maybe this wouldn't have happened.
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her
family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful
young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many
to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart
was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was
not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at
such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can
be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world
we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her
touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something
that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was
very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his
voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do
nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through
and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until
the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on.
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever.
Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael,
you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your
place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished
you the most.
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell
me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History
Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned
a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a
little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans
to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together
and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first
time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless
over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands.
She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped
to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's
other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never
see their faces on these pages.
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived.
She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was
in awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away,
and as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty
from the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend
she had she made her relationship with them special and unique.
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend..
Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for.. Even though
he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he
did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter that he had
asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take
his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it.. Jamie died on April
23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other
people at the home called 911 instead of waiting 3 hours, he would still be
here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time
dealing with loosing his father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now
Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of you my son..Love
you always and forever, Mommy
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest
child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and
loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and loved
to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and was
very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother and
one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could draw.
There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin was left
to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008. Her date
of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I miss her
every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an amazing young
woman. I lost a part of my heart.
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents
only dream of having. He always respected and obeyed his parents and never got
in trouble. RJ was never in trouble in his life RJ always called home to let
us know where he was and when he would be home. When he was missing and we couldn't
reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong.
This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living
it. Our concern is not what we are going through, but what our son had to go
through in his final moments of life.
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was
a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his
MOM was his best friend. Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and
sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing,
car, and home. Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children.
He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have
a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had
a gift with children. Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was
with their children and how their children loved him. Billy was loved by so
many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will
be greatly missed by all his family and friends.
Chase lived life spontaneously with the freedom of a butterfly – a free spirit
& soul – no one could hold him down, except his baby girl. She was his LIFE.
There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do for her, including getting clean. Chase
was clean 1.5 yrs, after 6 months in residential rehab in New Orleans, continued
with NA meetings, substance abuse group counseling, and sought out a Navy recruiter
who told him all he would have to do to be eligible. He seemed to be on his
way, until he fell off the wagon 12 days out of jail. Turning to heroin again
to deal with stress was the mistake of his life. “Chase’s Story” is shared with
you on his main page. Thanks for taking time to read it. Sincere and heartfelt
thanks to the FDLFD Family for taking us under their wings. “They will sing
me to them, and I will hear.” ~RIP Chase~4evrYng~1985-2009
Katelynn Lillian Porter, 16, of West Elgin, was killed in a car crash on Dunborough
Rd. in Elgin County. “In loving memory of Katelynn Porter. 12/12/09. 9:40 p.m.”
is written between two hearts on the roadside memorial, a makeshift cross. Porter
was a student at West Elgin secondary school, where officials are trying to
come to grips with the news of her death, especially so close to Christmas.
Tony passed away 10 days after his 16th birthday. He asked permission to spend the night at his friends and I told him yes. I told him" I love you" and he replied "I love you too Mom. Tony was the kid who wanted to make everyone laugh. He had such a wonderful sense of humor and a big heart. He would talk to his friends for hours trying to help them solve their problems. He was a loving big brother, and a wonderful son. He would help you with anything without even being asked. Tony was an extremely intelligent child. He was always placed in advanced classes. A week before he passed we received a letter from Columbine informing us that Tony was nominated to participate in their advanced English Program. He had a gift for writing stories.
She loved all things technical and mechanical with her older brother Ian and fashion and decorating days with her older sister Genevieve. She loved Gothic country art, the workings of the human body, video games, driving and her new tattoo machine. She loved swimming and surfing. She loved all things living and loved her dog Timpleton and her parrot Thermopolis. She had a strong heart and soul, was an independent and progressive thinker, open minded and a will power like no one else. Her favorite place to go was Barnes and Noble.
Vivianna Satterfield was 15 years old! Vivi was the type of young lady that put other people in front of herself. She would always say "Peace and Love".
Kelli Laine Lewis is my only daughter. Kelli died when she was 18 after attending a party hosted by 3 adults who offered a $5.00 entry fee to come and drink all you wanted. A pretty tempting offer for teens not old enough to buy alcohol.
Growing up – she had it all. She was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She wShe was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She was always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing. Taylor was a huge fan of Tyler Perry’s Madea. She owned every play and knew every word to every gospel song in the plays. She would sing them at the top of her lungs to anyone that would listen. as always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing.
He went out THE FIRST TIME to celebrate being "LEGAL" with a creep he considered a friend (even though we warned him this guy was not a true friend). My son did not drive so he was picked up about ten thirty. Even when it was obvious my son was having difficulties this creep brought him to his own house , which is 4 houses away for a few hours, and dropped him off here at home in the middle of the night WITHOUT KNOCKING OR CALLING OR WAKING US UP. We found Ben in his bed the next morning when we tried to wake him.
& Lisa McCarthy Father & Mother of
We are Pat & Lisa McCarthy we live in Eagle Point,
Oregon. Pat owns
and runs a small construction company and Lisa is a homemaker who is
attending on line College. We are the proud parents of 7 wonderful
children, Danielle is our youngest and we have 3 beautiful
If you are reading this, you have either lost a loved one
and was blessed to find the most awesome Friends Team you could
ever hope for, or you're a politician getting ready help our
endeavors against drugs..
I am DD, the very, humbled, blessed mom of Christi Nowak.
I used to pray to know what unconditional love felt like. I
yearned for it. The moment I knew Christi was in my womb, I
knew unconditional love and it was more love than I was ever
capable of imagining. Christi has a little brother, Brent. They
adored one another with all their hearts. Both Brent (age 11)
and I are taking that "angry energy" from losing Christi and
turning it into a fight against drugs, hopefully to prevent the
next senseless death. Every dent in drugs is needed. We have
spoken at several drug summits, forums, schools and even to
officers-in-training. Our current endeavor is to get Random
Student Drug Testing in our schools and to also promote the
www.friendsdontletfriendsdie.com site as a
one-stop-soft-place-to-land when looking for resources, laws,
drug street terms and shoulders to lean on. When I'm not on the
frontline fighting drugs, I'm running my home-based graphic
design/advertising business in Woodstock, GA and raising the
most beautiful son God could bless me with.
Ria Coesel - Mother of Anke Furber
Noble - Mother of Levi Wren
Jo - New York Mother of Ephraim David Schultz
Hi, My name is Mary Jo AND I am the mother of
Ephraim David. His fathers name
is William Robert. Although we are divorced Ephraim's dad was
very active in his life. If you are reading this please
understand that our children were not necessarily "bad people".
They were and are like your children. And unfortunately made a
choice to do drugs for various motives known and unknown to us.
All of our children on this site , died because their supposed
friends did not intervene. In other words this site would not
exist except that their friends did not intervene and save their
lives by calling 911. I work as an R.N. currently a travel
nurse. I have worked in many areas of nursing including
psychiatry. I have one other son Josiah age 24 now. The ripples
that Ephraims death has caused in the family are many. We will
all never be the same and we miss him so very much.
We parents are organizing and speaking out to help prevent
another child's needless death.
We are raising our voices as one.
Thank you for visiting this site and please send this link to
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Mary Jo - Mother of Ephraim David Schultz
Parents of Kaylin Marie Mathews -
My husband Doug and I are fortunate to be the parents of
Kaylin Mathews. Kaylin was found in a ravine on July 1, 2008.
A "friend" left her there to die after supplying her with
oxycontin, instead of calling 9-1-1. Three people stepped in to
help her and he removed her from that help. In Kaylin's memory,
we have joined Friends Don't Let Friends Die. We are also
working to change the crime of body dumping in CA from a
misdemeanor to a felony. We have joined with the other parents
of Friends Don't Let Friends Die and Legal But Deadly to educate
about the dangers of drugs and what the signs of an overdose
are. Please, be a true friend. Never leave someone to die
because you are afraid.
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Doug and Kim Lasater
Parents of Michael David Miller -
Cathy Ellis - Rhode Island Mother of Mark R. Ellis -
My only child/son Mark has brought my life in many directions. I
fought many years from pre-school to high school (adhd/odd)-police to
courts, hospital stays to rehabs,
brain injury to
disabled, drug-abuse to jails, I have been there with Mark ! Tax money
put to use.I live and work drama and trauma and have met many great
people along the way. In memory of Mark, I have been working
diligently to upgrade the "Duty to Assist Law" in Rhode Island from a
misdemeanor to a felony status, "death resulting."---The "911 Emergency
Good Samaritan Law"
has been enacted in New
Mexico and has been sitting on the table in RI and 5 other states
for quite some time. The "911 Emergency Good Samaritan Law" would
protect from prosecution people who have witnessed a
drug overdose and
have contacted 911 immediately to request medical treatment for the
victim of overdose or toxicity. If you have lost a child to overdose
in RI and no one called for help in their most desperate time of need..
Feel free to contact this website. Together we can make a difference!
Together we can make a difference!
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- Contact us if you have a question or just need to talk
Hooper - Washington Mother of Katty Andrea - Maryland
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Tabaka - Wisconsin Father of Chuck Tabaka
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Richard Tabaka and family
Daly - California
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Kueter Family -
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Live in Southern Oregon. Kathy is a teacher working with 3-5
year old children and their families for over 20 years. Ken has also worked with children and families for many years before going to work at a manufacturing corporation.
We created this site to help make people aware of the
tragedies happening across our country.
THE PRESIDENT: Just had an extraordinary discussion
with a group of our fellow citizens -- some are
pastors, some are ex-cons, some are baseball
players, some are docs, some are community activists
-- all who've come together to talk about a comprehensive
strategy to deal with drug use inAmerica.
And our strategy is threefold: one, reduce demand,
interdict supply, and then help people who have
become addicts. And we're making progress. No question there's
still work to do inAmerica, but we
are making progress. And one way to note the
progress is this statistic: Since 2001, teenage use
has declined by 25 percent. That means 900,000
fewer teens on drugs.
The strategy can be measured. The implementation
requires understanding that grassroots activists --
for example, like the faith community -- can play an
integral work in working alongside government to
achieve our objectives. The Admiral here has --
Admiral Allen, Commandant of the Coast Guard,
reported about our interdiction efforts -- that we've
been making great progress at interdicting, for
example, cocaine being trafficked primarily out of
South America and Central America into our country.
And finally I am pleased that the Access to Recovery
program and programs like that are vibrant and
active, which basically says to an addict: If you
so choose, you can redeem your health, redeem your
money at a place of love in the faith community.
Lives are changing. People's
lives are being saved. I say government is justice,
government is law -- but government must not fear
places of love. And so this has been a positive
report and a great meeting, and I want to thank you
all for coming. More importantly I want to thank
you for being citizens, and not spectators -- people
who have decided to do something about your personal
lives, as well as the lives of those in your
the collective effort of thousands of social
entrepreneurs that help makeAmericaa
There will be more work done after I'm
out of here, but we have laid the foundation for a
successful effort against drug use, drug supply, and
helping those who have been addicted.