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Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned
out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career
where she could help others but have time for her family. 
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church
shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting
with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was
determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered
often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the
homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped
do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have
changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there
was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died. 
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting
scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's
charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom,
Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to
foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss
of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter".
Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written
in a close time frame to the actual murder. 
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband
and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would
do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who
he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took
advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If
he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today.
We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished,
but we know he was a "Friend" till the end. 
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He
was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends
and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table
and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of
his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his
Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate
in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends. 
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom.
Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life.
Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug
rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at
the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part
of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish
reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams
that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE.......... 
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling,
and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a
room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life
and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very
special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom
also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he
showed his affection to his family and friends 
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader
for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the
dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities
stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once
they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents
are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high
school, maybe this wouldn't have happened. 
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her
family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful
young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many
to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart
was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was
not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at
such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can
be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world
we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her
touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something
that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was
very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his
voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do
nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through
and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until
the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on. 
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever.
Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael,
you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your
place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished
you the most. 
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell
me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History
Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned
a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a
little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans
to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together
and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first
time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless
over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands.
She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped
to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's
other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never
see their faces on these pages. 
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived.
She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was
in awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away,
and as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty
from the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend
she had she made her relationship with them special and unique. 
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend..
Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for.. Even though
he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he
did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter that he had
asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take
his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it.. Jamie died on April
23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other
people at the home called 911 instead of waiting 3 hours, he would still be
here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time
dealing with loosing his father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now
Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of you my son..Love
you always and forever, Mommy 
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest
child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and
loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and loved
to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and was
very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother and
one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could draw.
There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin was left
to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008. Her date
of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I miss her
every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an amazing young
woman. I lost a part of my heart. 
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents
only dream of having. He always respected and obeyed his parents and never got
in trouble. RJ was never in trouble in his life RJ always called home to let
us know where he was and when he would be home. When he was missing and we couldn't
reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong.
This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living
it. Our concern is not what we are going through, but what our son had to go
through in his final moments of life. 
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was
a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his
MOM was his best friend. Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and
sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing,
car, and home. Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children.
He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have
a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had
a gift with children. Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was
with their children and how their children loved him. Billy was loved by so
many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will
be greatly missed by all his family and friends. 
Chase lived life spontaneously with the freedom of a butterfly – a free spirit
& soul – no one could hold him down, except his baby girl. She was his LIFE.
There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do for her, including getting clean. Chase
was clean 1.5 yrs, after 6 months in residential rehab in New Orleans, continued
with NA meetings, substance abuse group counseling, and sought out a Navy recruiter
who told him all he would have to do to be eligible. He seemed to be on his
way, until he fell off the wagon 12 days out of jail. Turning to heroin again
to deal with stress was the mistake of his life. “Chase’s Story” is shared with
you on his main page. Thanks for taking time to read it. Sincere and heartfelt
thanks to the FDLFD Family for taking us under their wings. “They will sing
me to them, and I will hear.” ~RIP Chase~4evrYng~1985-2009 
Katelynn Lillian Porter, 16, of West Elgin, was killed in a car crash on Dunborough
Rd. in Elgin County. “In loving memory of Katelynn Porter. 12/12/09. 9:40 p.m.”
is written between two hearts on the roadside memorial, a makeshift cross. Porter
was a student at West Elgin secondary school, where officials are trying to
come to grips with the news of her death, especially so close to Christmas.
Tony passed away 10 days after his 16th birthday. He asked permission to spend the night at his friends and I told him yes. I told him" I love you" and he replied "I love you too Mom. Tony was the kid who wanted to make everyone laugh. He had such a wonderful sense of humor and a big heart. He would talk to his friends for hours trying to help them solve their problems. He was a loving big brother, and a wonderful son. He would help you with anything without even being asked. Tony was an extremely intelligent child. He was always placed in advanced classes. A week before he passed we received a letter from Columbine informing us that Tony was nominated to participate in their advanced English Program. He had a gift for writing stories.
She loved all things technical and mechanical with her older brother Ian and fashion and decorating days with her older sister Genevieve. She loved Gothic country art, the workings of the human body, video games, driving and her new tattoo machine. She loved swimming and surfing. She loved all things living and loved her dog Timpleton and her parrot Thermopolis. She had a strong heart and soul, was an independent and progressive thinker, open minded and a will power like no one else. Her favorite place to go was Barnes and Noble.
Vivianna Satterfield was 15 years old! Vivi was the type of young lady that put other people in front of herself. She would always say "Peace and Love".
Kelli Laine Lewis is my only daughter. Kelli died when she was 18 after attending a party hosted by 3 adults who offered a $5.00 entry fee to come and drink all you wanted. A pretty tempting offer for teens not old enough to buy alcohol.
Growing up – she had it all. She was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She wShe was smart and witty - she could come up with a jovial comeback in almost any conversation or situation. She was always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing. Taylor was a huge fan of Tyler Perry’s Madea. She owned every play and knew every word to every gospel song in the plays. She would sing them at the top of her lungs to anyone that would listen. as always photographing everything and always laughing. She had an infectious laugh, loud and squeaky, but incredibly endearing.
He went out THE FIRST TIME to celebrate being "LEGAL" with a creep he considered a friend (even though we warned him this guy was not a true friend). My son did not drive so he was picked up about ten thirty. Even when it was obvious my son was having difficulties this creep brought him to his own house , which is 4 houses away for a few hours, and dropped him off here at home in the middle of the night WITHOUT KNOCKING OR CALLING OR WAKING US UP. We found Ben in his bed the next morning when we tried to wake him.
  
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Sean P. Efford
1986-2006
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Full of Life and Dreams! Forever young!
Sean was born and raised in Albuquerque, New Mexico in 1986.
The nurses at the hospital adored Sean’s long, thick, and curly
eyelashes. ”What a pretty little healthy baby boy,” also said
the nurses! Mom and Dad were fascinated by their
precious little baby boy! Sean’s athleticism started to show at
a young age; this talent became obvious to his parents.
Excited and proud, Mom and Dad signed him up to just about every
sports that they can think of for Sean to play! Ski
vacation was the family’s yearly plan, and at the age of three,
Sean started skiing. What a little hot-dog! He was
so active that he even played football during recess while in
elementary school. He would bring home a trophy and a
ribbon because he and his team would win first place. Mom and
Dad remembered one of the cute things Sean used to answer
whenever someone asked him about where he was going to school;
this was when he was five years old. Sean used to answer,
“I go to Humpty Dumpty instead of Hubert Humphrey!” What a
typical cute five year old little boy!
Mom and Dad signed him up to play soccer when he started
kindergarten. Soon after, he was signed up for baseball,
karate, basketball, and hockey. (Oh, he was also playing
music instruments which were drums, trumpet, and guitar) He
started to have the love for hockey and concentrated on
playing while in high school. So interested in Hockey, he
became one of the stick boys for the NM Scorpions Hockey team.
Playing hockey became his ritual. Mom and Dad thought he
deserved to be sent to Okanagan Hockey Camp in Canada. Dad
and his precious son had a “blast” in Canada! Besides
playing hockey for La Cueva High School, he was also playing for
the New Mexico Hockey Travel team. “Boy!” That was a
lot of traveling and playing hockey! Dad, Mom, and
Sean’s little sister spent a lot of times inside of a cold ice
skating rink, but it was always a joy to watch Sean skated
because he played like a champion on the ice! Along with
hockey, he also loved snowboarding!
Besides from being a great athlete, he was smart, outgoing, and
outspoken. He also had a heart of gold! Sean would
always bring home awards for being a great speaker in class.
He also enjoyed being part of the DARE program which was the
drug awareness program at his former school. He was also
part of the the Honors’ Club while in middle school and
participated in volunteer work. One of them was
visiting sick children at UNM Childrens’ Hospital. A very
active young man indeed! He also joined the track team at La
Cueva High School in Albuquerque while playing hockey for the
same school. He later lived with his Dad and graduated high
school in Camarillo, California. As a teenager, he was full of life and dreams. He studied to pursue his career and maintained his full-time job. His supervisors from work thought Sean was an outstanding employee! He was always trying to study before going to work, and he would come home during his break to eat. Sean had many friends, and he enjoyed being around them as well as being around his family. His personality was filled with warmth, kindness, and love. Sean had the ability to light up a room! You always know when Sean is in the room because of his lively, fun, and great personality. He had the kind of smile that it was very easy to be his friend.
Saying no and being aware! Rx dangers should have been known as
well!
As one of the many teenagers, Sometimes Sean thought he was
invicible which was typical in most young people. Some of
Sean’s friends have said during sophomore year in high school,
Sean was too afraid to drink alcohol so he said no. They also
said that when Sean got a little older he would only drink
alcohol on an occasional basis, and it was the same with smoking
marijuana. But peer pressure can be a challenge in some
teenagers which can make them weak and can’t say no.
Unfortunately later, Sean drove and drank which he was charged
with DWI. Because of DWI, Sean was assigned a probation officer
where he had to report once a week and his driver’s license was
taken away from him. One day during his report and to his
surprised, a random drug and alcohol testing needed to be done!
Sean had no idea that this was part of the process when
reporting to his probation officer . Sean’s result was positive
for marijuana and negative for alcohol and negative for other
illegal drugs. He soon learned that smoking “pot” was not a good
idea.
Sean stopped drinking and driving, and stopped smoking
marijuana. After several visits to his probation officer,
Sean has proven his good attitude and has proven negative
results from the random drug and alcohol testing. The probation
officer told Sean’s mother that Sean is a good “kid,” and I like
him because he is learning quickly. ” Sean was determined to
become a responsible adult. After good reports from his
probation officer, the judge granted Sean his driver’s license
back. Sean was very happy that he was given a second chance and
continued to say no to drinking and driving, illegal drugs, and
marijuana. His mother quickly drove him to Motor Vehicle
Department to get his driver’s license again on February 2,
2006. Sean died 25 days later which was on February 27, 2006.
Rx drugs should have been part of the random alcohol and drug
testing?
At the age of 19, Sean became well aware about drinking and
driving, and marijuana; he stayed away from them. Mom and
Dad were relieved that Sean was trying hard by studying and
working at the same time. The one thing Sean didn’t know
was prescription drugs are just as dangerous! Because of
the word prescription, most think it’s safe. The misusing
of prescription drugs/pharming was becoming popular with the
teenagers.
As a result from not knowing about the Legal but Deadly, Sean
died on the morning of Monday, February 27, 2006. The
official report from the Albquerque Fire Department recorded
that Sean’s vomit was dry when they arrived at the scene!
He suffered from signs and symptoms of OxyContin overdose.
The fire department also reported that it took nine minutes
after a 911 was called for them to arrive to rescue Sean and not
thirty minutes. The thoughts of Ms. Efford and Mr.
Efford’s son suffering from overdosing is very difficult to
imagine.
Finallly after five months of waiting anxiously for Sean’s
toxicology report, the report showed no alcohol, no
marijuana, and no other illegal drugs were found in Sean’s
system. His system was free from all of these substances
and many questions on why would a healthy young man would
die from taking one pill and a half? Sean died from an
accidental opiods overdose. Some say maybe because his
system was clean and because he took OxyContin occasionally that
he never developed tolerance from opiods
which is the main substance in the pill, or was his system too
weak and too sensitive to the powerful OxyContin?
A Beautiful goodbye to a precious young man who touched so many
hearts!
On March 1, 2006, Sean’s parents welcomed friends and family to
have one last moment with Sean at his viewing at French Mortuary
in Albuquerque. The viewing was full of sadness but was
filled with love. The mortuary was full of people from his
elementary teachers, soccer coaches, and many others who knew
Sean as a young boy and a young man. The next day which
was Thursday, March 2, 2006, a funeral mass at St.
Bernadette Catholic church was held. Every pews at the church
were filled! Deacon Byron conducted the special mass for
Sean. People who attended the service were touched with
beautiful music and comforting words by Deacon Byron.
St. Bernadette is a very special church for Sean and his family.
Sean and his sister were both baptized and both did their first
communion at St. Bernadette. Soon after his first communion,
Sean was excited to serve as an altar boy for his
church. Sometimes Sean didn’t do to well with the hot weather!
During one of his Sunday services, Sean fainted! Mom
immediatedly checked on Sean, and Sean told his mother, “Mom,
this robe is too hot for Summer!” Poor little thing!
Although the robe he had to wear as an altar boy was
uncomfortable, he continued to do his service. His Mom
and his sister also served by being part of the church choirs.
Sean used to always say after attending mass on Sundays, “It
always feels good going to church!” Because Sean was
raised and taught to be a believer, his faith and beliefs were
always in his heart and soul.
After Sean’s funeral mass, a long procession to the cemetery
followed. With the cemetery over crowded with friends,
family, and people whe knew Sean and his family, he was laid to
rest at the peaceful Gate of Heaven Catholic cemetery in
Albuquerque, New Mexico. A beautiful goodbye to a precious
young man who touched so many hearts!
Living tree for Sean at his childhood park donated by Mrs. Helen
Hill and Mrs. Linda Reisen.
In addition to honoring the late Sean Efford, Mrs. Helen
Hillman and Mrs. Linda Reisen put together a cook book sale
to fund a living tree with Sean’s name engraved on
a memorial plaque at the Academy Hills Park. The park is
where Sean spent a lot of time playing and practicing
soccer. Academy Hills Park is also next to his former
elementary school, Hubert Humphrey. Mrs. Reisen and Mrs.
Hillman are two very special people who gave their time and
generosity voluntarily. Sean and his family are very
thankful for these two special ladies. Because Sean was
raised to be appreciative and to be polite, he would
definitely say to both ladies, ”Thank you Ms
Remembering Sean!
Sean Efford will always be and always be remembered as “A
Beautiful Young Man Whose Warmth and Kindness Live On…”
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By Sean’s Mom
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Sean P. Efford
1986 – 2006 Three years went by so quickly! Less than three years ago, Pharming (Rx abuse) was never heard of by me. Unfortunately, I had to learn it after my son died. Since 2006 which is the year Sean died, speaking to warn and distributing my pamphlet became my passion in order to continue my LBD mission. I have spoken to many teens and confident that my work have saved teens from "pharming." One of the plans to promote the dangers of Legal but Deadly/pharming is having a website where parents and their children can visit for awareness purpose. It was also done to honor my son and his memories. Making my LBD website didn't come easy. As a Mom with a mission and determination to spread the words, I prepared, written, and researched with strenght and courage to face the reality of losing a son to something that I will always believe was preventable. Please visit and share my website momagainstprescriptionpharming.com or fightagainstoxycontinabuse.com to any teenagers or to anyone you know to raise an awareness on the dangerous "pharming." Sincerely, Lorna Efford, LBD - One Mom's Fight Against Prescription Pharming! |
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